Your Side of the Court

Over the last several weeks, I have tried to help you and your partner shed some light on your sexual struggles. I asked you to reflect on your personal histories and how your experiences with sex, love, conflict, and support have shaped the way you approach your intimate relationships. Next, I asked you to examine […]

What Happens During Sex?

In this series of blog posts, I am asking you and your partner to examine your patterns around sex. You discussed initiation and how you talk about you sex life. Now let’s look at what happens during sex. What Happens During Sex Itself? Let’s take apart what happens in sex when you have it. Most […]

Performance Issues

As you and your partner continue to uncover why you are avoiding sex, it is important to consider performance issues. The reality or perception of performance issues are a common source of dysfunction in a couple’s sex life. Performance Issues Some of what you consider your “performance issues” may just be your experiences not living […]

Sexual Identity

Continuing the discussions you and your partner are having about your sexual histories, let’s turn this week to the topic of sexual identity. Sexual Identity Your sense of yourself as a sexual person develops over time. Some of you have always had a clear understanding of who you are and what your sexual interests are. […]