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Your Side of the Court

Over the last several weeks, I have tried to help you and your partner shed some light on your sexual struggles. I asked you to reflect on your personal histories and how your experiences with [...]

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After Sex and Between

Last week, I asked you and your partner to talk about what happens when you have sex. Next, I want you to discuss what happens after sex. What Happens After (and Between) Sex? When sex is a [...]

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What Happens During Sex?

In this series of blog posts, I am asking you and your partner to examine your patterns around sex. You discussed initiation and how you talk about you sex life. Now let’s look at what happens [...]

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Talking About Sex

Last week, I ask you and your partner to begin discussing your patterns around sex. Next, let’s address how you both communicate about sex at this point in your relationship. How Do You Talk [...]

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Initiation

Over the next few weeks, I am going to ask you and your partner to examine your unique sexual dance – the choreography you go through each time you have, or don’t have, sex. The goal is for you [...]

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Your Unique Dance

The goal of my last series of blogs posts has been to help you and your partner uncover what it is about your lives, past and present, that has lead you into the sexual avoidance cycle. Hopefully [...]

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Gender and Sex

Issues of identity are often at play in our sex lives. Discovering yourself through your sexuality can be joyful and exciting, but you may also avoid sex if it raises identity questions that you [...]

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Body Image

There are many reasons couples avoid sex. One common one is because one or both partners is uncomfortable with their body. Sex is a physical act, and it is easy for body issues to get in the way [...]

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Performance Issues

As you and your partner continue to uncover why you are avoiding sex, it is important to consider performance issues. The reality or perception of performance issues are a common source of [...]

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Sexual Identity

Continuing the discussions you and your partner are having about your sexual histories, let’s turn this week to the topic of sexual identity. Sexual Identity Your sense of yourself as a sexual [...]