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Your Side of the Court

Over the last several weeks, I have tried to help you and your partner shed some light on your sexual struggles. I asked you to reflect on your personal histories and how your experiences with [...]

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Your Unique Dance

The goal of my last series of blogs posts has been to help you and your partner uncover what it is about your lives, past and present, that has lead you into the sexual avoidance cycle. Hopefully [...]

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Relationship Issues

Last week, I discussed how loss can cause couples to avoid sex. There are many relationship issues that may also be at the root of your avoidance cycle. Let’s look at a few. Relationship Issues [...]

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Previous Relationships

Whether we realize it or not, we bring lessons learned from our past into our future relationships. Uncovering what’s in our baggage is key to improving our intimate live, and hopefully this blog [...]

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Conflict in Your Family

If you have been following along with the conversation topics I have offered for you and your partner, I hope that you have begun to uncover some of the ways your upbringing has affected your [...]

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Power In Your Family

Last week, you and your partner discussed the members of your respective families. Now it’s time to dig a little deeper. Power in Your Family After discussing the members of your nuclear family, [...]

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Sex is important

Sex, intimacy and relationships are important in our lives. As humans, we are designed to be in relationship to others. Our connection to the people we love makes a big difference in our quality [...]

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Your Family History

Understanding your part of the avoidance cycle in your relationship means taking a close look at your family history. In order to change your relationship patters, you have to get clear about [...]

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Make a request, but remain flexible

My last several blog posts have focused on how to make discussing relationship difficulties with your partner easier. I talked about how using “I” language and confronting yourself first can [...]

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Distinguish between thoughts and feelings

In last week’s blog, I introduced the topic of broaching relationship conversations with your partner. Over the coming weeks, you will see posts laying out specific tools and examples to help [...]