What Were You Taught About Sex?

Now that you and your partner have examined your family life and how that shaped your personality and coping mechanisms, it is time to look back at your relationship and sexual history. It’s not only your family who has put things into your baggage. You need to understand your sexual beliefs and expectations when you’re […]

Substance Abuse and Mental Illness in Your Family

Last week, I asked you and your partner to discuss your experiences with conflict. Unfortunately, a common source of family conflict is substance abuse and mental illness. The presence of these difficulties in our childhood homes can have a significant effect on our adult relationships. Substance Abuse and Mental Illness Many families struggle with the […]

Conflict in Your Family

If you have been following along with the conversation topics I have offered for you and your partner, I hope that you have begun to uncover some of the ways your upbringing has affected your relationship, be it positively and negatively. Let’s turn now to the topic of conflict. Conflict Your family and upbringing teach […]

How Did Your Family Talk About Sex?

Last week, I asked you and your partner to discuss the love and support your experienced in your families growing up. Now let’s talk about sex. Sex Your family has a big impact on your attitude toward sex. Some of you come from families that were open about sex, talking about it and treating it […]

Love and Support in Your Family

If you have been following my blog, you have so far discussed your family of origin and its power dynamics with your partner. Let’s continue. Love and Support Families differ in whether (and how) they show love and affection. Some of you will have been raised feeling loved and supported; others will have known from […]

Power In Your Family

Last week, you and your partner discussed the members of your respective families. Now it’s time to dig a little deeper. Power in Your Family After discussing the members of your nuclear family, it is important to think about how your family handled power. Every family will come up with some way of deciding who […]

Your Family History

Understanding your part of the avoidance cycle in your relationship means taking a close look at your family history. In order to change your relationship patters, you have to get clear about your contributions to the problem and where they stem from. Let’s turn first to your upbringing. As I mentioned in last week’s blog, […]