Pornography is a caricature of sex

Pornography influences our sexual expectations. We can’t talk about sexual expectations without talking about pornography. Like other movies that feed us an image of what sex can or should look like, pornography can have a big impact on how we picture sex. Pornography has changed forms over the years, and it’s much more pervasive than […]

Your unrealistic expectations are the problem

In the last post, I talked about how the Sexual Avoidance Cycle starts with disappointment. Disappointment is all about your unrealistic expectations. It is the literal definition of disappointment—“the feeling of sadness or displeasure caused by the non-fulfillment of one’s hopes or expectations.” Your expectations are the problem. Your expectations of yourself, your partner, and […]