Need couples counseling? Here are some signs

I have met couples who came to counseling when it was too late. One, or both, of them had already become so dead to the relationship that they were unwilling to engage in bringing it back to life. In this situation, couples will sometimes come to therapy to say that they tried everything, to get […]

Higher desire partner survival guide

In any long-term, committed relationship, one person will be the higher desire partner. There’s no judgment about that; it’s just the way it works. It doesn’t have to be a problem at all, but it can become a problem over time, especially if the desire discrepancy grows because of other, underlying issues. The higher desire […]

Lower desire partner survival guide

If you are the lower desire partner in a committed relationship, you should ask yourself some questions. I suggest you look at the dynamics in your relationship from two perspectives: where is the best in you running the show and where is the worst in you in charge? The lower desire partner controls sex. Given […]

Integrity – it has everything to do with sex

Integrity [in-teg-ri-tee]: noun adherence to moral and ethical principles; soundness of moral character; honesty. the state of being whole, entire, or undiminished. There are many ways we violate our integrity in relationships. Over time, our primary relationship will challenge us to maintain our integrity. One of the first symptoms of an integrity leak is when […]